The Ed Eppley Experience
The Ed Eppley Experience

Episode · 8 months ago

Suspending Judgement

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Great leaders, at appropriate times resist the temptation to correct answers they know to be incorrect from other team members. Instead, they assume the answer they "know" to be correct might actually be wrong and "seek to understand" and learn from their team. In this Minilog I share why you may want to add this skill to your leadership arsenal. (It can help you at home too!)

Welcome to the Ed Epley experience Minilog. Let professional management expert Ed Epley inspire you to take action onbuilding a more sustainable, smart and healthy business. Hello, everyone. It'sEpley with a mini log for you today, and this one is really near and dear tome because it's something I am trying to do a much better job on. It's calledsuspending judgment, if another way to think about it is listening. Toe learn.Ultimately, what suspending judgment means is, rather than being certainthat I know the answer to whatever someone else is talking about or even aquestion, they would ask that I would initially suspend judgment, which meansI'm going to be trying to think about how Doe I make sure I have all theinformation I need to get to the best answer that would best serve me orothers with whom I'm interacting.

Stephen Covey calls it listening tounderstand before being understood. Ultimately, it's Are we getting thebest from our teens so that collectively we make the rightdecisions more quickly than we otherwise would. For this? To makesense, you need to think about it in the context of how our minds work andthe way our minds work is that our behavior is driven by feelings oremotions, and those feelings and emotions are driven by something thatwe're thinking about her experience. So if if you think about a practicalapplication of this when you're driving and someone cuts you off as you'redriving on the interstate, you're feeling is one of anger or frustration.And that might result in a behavior that either you grip the steering wheeltightly or you honk the horn. Or you might even do something moredemonstrative toe. Let the driver who cut you off know that you're unhappywith them, whatever that might be. But the point is that preceding thatfeeling of anger or frustration was a...

...very brief thought about man that'sdangerous or that stupid. But we're not really aware that that thinking tookplace. All we know is how we feel and the corresponding behavior. So whenwe're in meetings, if somebody says something that we believe to be wrongor miss informed rather than pointing that out, if we suspend judgment, wewould change our thinking from that's wrong, too. I wonder why he or She saidthat so the thinking would be becoming curious when someone disagrees with usor our point of view. And then that leads to curiosity could probably alsoresult in a feeling of questioning that would result in you asking a question.Why do you say that? What experiences have you had that make you feel thatway? So what we're really looking to do then is try to get all of theinformation as quickly as possible that we could so that we collectively couldmake a better decision. And to do that...

...suspending judgment means that we willbecome mawr curious when we're interacting with others before werespond before we offer our opinion. So we're probably more likely to askquestions, not believing that we know the answer, but believing that there'sa chance we don't know the answer. So the concept one more time is suspendingjudgment. What that means is, when we're in meetings with our teams, whatwe're gonna try to do is b'more curious and start with the premise in mostinstances that whatever is being offered, we're not so sure that we haveall of the right information or the best answer. We're gonna suspendjudgment, become curious. Ask more questions before we offer up ourthoughts. That's it for today's mini log. Thanks, everyone talk to you soon. Mhm. Thanks for listening to the N FLee Mini log visit W W W the Epley group dot com for resource is tips,adds latest blog's and a free...

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